AFRA EDITORIALS By Leonard Henderson

Parenting the violent, dangerous, criminal thug teen
Part 2
By Leonard Henderson
February 4, 2010

So, you have one.  You have been tolerating his/her temper tantrums for years, destroying things, hurting animals and playmates. The kid has a sewer mouth. You can't take him/her shopping with you anymore, because s/he will steal something.  You are getting phone calls from school.  You are being scheduled for meetings about the kid's behavior.

In the back of your mind, you KNOW this kid is soon headed for Juvenile.  Which is fine with you, except the authorities are going to come after YOU for this kid's behaviors.

You have already done all the Politically Correct things like take away video games or "grounding" the kid.  S/he breaks the window in his/her room to "escape" and run off to his/her thug friends.

You are finding drugs in his/her room, porn, and see the sort of crap the kid is into on the computer.  Boys especially are mesmerized by the most violent video games they can find.  The most violent, filthy, evil movies and videos are exactly what this kid wants to watch.  There is nothing but evil thoughts in this kid's head, 24 hours a day.  Whatever the current fad is in dressing like a thug -- is exactly what your kid does.

Whatever this kid is, or does, there's not one blessed thing you can do about it.  The new age, politically correct "kindler, gentler world theory of child rearing" says so.  

Basically, you the parent are left to allow the kid to "raise him/herself" in the street wisdom of his/her peers.

The schools are threatening YOU to do something about it.  The school may have some "program" to "help" this kid, but the kid is NOT "responding" to their "treatment".  The kid may already be on Ritalin or some other dope, and it's NOT really helping.  But everybody is supposed to "play pretend" that things are a lot better.  The truth is, the kid has already ceased participating in school or functioning in society.  S/he hasn't done anything of a "scholastic" nature for years.

The kid is "at risk of failing".  And the "authorities" blame YOU for "allowing" it to happen.

.You bet your sweet bippy, the authorities are going to come at YOU for this kid's behavior.  The kid's case gets "staffed", meaning that 5 to 10 contractor "professionals" are put on your case.  You get the blame.  You get the bills.  YOU get the "counseling" from state contractor mental illness clinicians to "change your attitude".  More than likely, you are expected to take classes, meet "counselors", appear in court.  If you lose your job over it, all the better.  These people couldn't care less.

Meanwhile, absolutely nothing of any significance happens to the completely out-of-control violent, dangerous, criminal thug teen.

Eventually the staff concludes that you present such a "threat" to the kid's "well-being" that they decide the kid needs to go to a "residential treatment center".  Here is where the kid receives his/her "diagnosis", usually as being "bi-polar", and doped out of his/her head.

In my particular case, as I related in Part 1 of this story- CPS said that I had "long term mentally abused" him and the "Post Traumatic Stress Disorder" was the PROOF.  No matter what they "diagnose" the kid, the kid's being this way is always somehow YOUR FAULT as the parent.

The system going after you is nothing but superfluous horse tookey.  All they are doing is "make work" for as many of their malfeasant maggoty friends - er - "professional associates" as possible.

This entire experience taught me an awful lot of hard lessons.  

My #1 mistake was thinking that I was HELPING the kid.  I participated VOLUNTARILY in the system because-

My #2 mistake was believing that the system wanted to HELP the kid.

Here's how that all turned out (Newspaper clipping from December 2000). Incidentally, Molly Rogers tried to get me to sign a paper accepting responsibility to PAY for the pop machine the kid destroyed after being in the state's custody for TWO YEARS.  I think I got her fired for that.

So what's the BIG LESSON I learned?

Volunteer for NOTHING.

Don't volunteer information.  Don't participate.  Don't bother trying to "save the kid from himself".  He got himself there.  

"Love and Logic" classes say LET HIM DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES of his actions. That's the only useful information I got from that class, and then only for the purpose of QUOTING THAT to CPS and their colluding contractors.  Because they ARE MORONS.

Succinctly said- That's the basics of what I learned about parenting a violent, dangerous, criminal thug teen in post-freedom Amerika.

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